The Enlightened One

Wednesday, July 18, 2007

Saw this on yahoo and thought it really funny.

11 Things Women Don't Know About Men
1.Getting angry at us for not reading your mind is like getting angry at yourself for not being able to fly. It's not just futile, it's physically impossible.
2. Yes, we do think Jessica Alba is hot. Sometimes we're even dumb enough to admit it.
3. Don't ask us to understand your shoe fetish. Asking us to respect it is even sort of pushing it.
4. You do look good without makeup, just not as good as you look with it.
5. Ever notice how we don't fight with our male friends? That's why we get so frustrated when we fight with you.
6. You care what you're wearing infinitely more than we do. In fact, if you're naked when you open the front door, you won't hear an argument from us.
7. You don't like to get hit on in public, you don't want to date online and you don't want to be set up on blind dates. Tell us if sending messenger pigeons is an appropriate way of courting. Because if it is, we're all over it.
8. There should a statute of limitations on stupid things that we said that can come back to haunt us
There should a statute of limitations on stupid things that we said that can come back to haunt us. I propose 24 hours.
9. Cooking dinner for a man is like buying flowers for a woman, except it takes a lot more time, effort and thought for you to do it. Thanks. We appreciate it.
10. We actually like your girly pet-names for us, but please, not in front of the guys!
11. Just because we like looking at the women in Maxim doesn't mean we want to actually converse with the women in Maxim. Not for long, anyway.
12. Your nice guy friends are the most reliable source for telling you if your new boyfriend's a jerk. And he probably is. (By the way, you might want to consider marrying that nice guy who's giving you advice about the jerk.)
Here's a response list: 1) We don't expect you to read our minds, but we don't expect you to be dense either.
2) I think JA is hot too. And Angelina Jolie. And Keira Knightley. What's the problem?
3) Doing something nice for my man is one thing, needing a stranger in a passing article to tell me I'm appreciated for it is something else.
4) This is so stereotypical.
5) My boyfriend prefers me without make-up, but not just because of how I look. He says he doesn't want to taste the make-up when he's kissing me.
6) I hope you don't have the same issues with your guy friends as you do with your girlfriends! My boyfriend plays video games with his friends, but he's trying to establish a life with me.
7) We're currently in a debate about this actually (an argument I don't see coming up with his friends). He wants me to wear more feminine clothing, but I prefer wearing his clothes. Girls clothes are meant to look pretty and I've never found them very comfortable or durable.
8) Maybe we don't want to be courted at all! Rent a porno and leave us alone!
9) Women bring up past mistakes to prevent them from being repeated. We'll stop when you stop.
10) Women know this. We're just doing it to mess with you.
11) That's what we're afraid of!
12) This one I like. All in all very sleazy tidbits.

Friday, June 08, 2007

I found this quote and thought it should be shared.

I believe in Christianity as I believe that the Sun has risen: not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else. - C. S. Lewis

Thursday, June 07, 2007

Balancing Act

I was speaking to my brother the other day and he asked why i d'ont blog. i told him iwas suffering from writer block. It true i ahve found that being in school i have cocooned myself in the tiny world of med school and have become totally disenfrachised from the rest of the world.

I started work and my supervisor tried to strike (repeatedly) conversations with me on current affairs and i was clueless. I have no idea what i happening in the rest of the world. my supervisor told me today to get out the box i have been living in. I most say that i couldnt retort because i have been living in a box.

This is my dillemma to have a life while in medschool takes graet skill and ingenuity. Other people have done it. I have realized that i am naturally not that agile and it will take great effort for me to become a well rounded individual.

How i am now is such a contrast to who i was in high school and in 6th form. for one i knew what was g;oing on was involved in every society under the sun and i was more confident in myself. I also had a greater sense of self.

Every area of my life went on hold during the semester and this cannot be good. My "boyfriend" said he didnt see the point of being with me if i never had time. Which is sad because i iwant to get married some day and for that to happen i have to develope a relationship first and that takes time.

So the question how to be a woman of God, good dedicated doctor, wife, mother sister and Sara all at the same time.

Thursday, December 28, 2006


i wonder sometimes why is it that i never really did "bruk out" when i came to university. i normally tell the younger of my generation that there is nothing called peer pressure at university everything that you choose to do is because you were curious and wanted to do it. so what happened to my curiosity. i dont think i was that mentally grounded to fend of being influenced.

i am not saying that i left university the same way i came but i didnt change that much. i didnt develope the habbit of cussing, didnt go out and sleep around, didnt do anything of note really. I just came got a degree and left.Where did the university experience go. it certainaly missed me or i missed it.

i am not saying that i want to do those things i just wondered why. but then when i look at the history of females in my family i can see where i get it from. i believe my aunts were raised in the era of feminism where women were all hype about conquering the world. they got into it and never did get out of it. I have yet to meet a man that can stand up to or equal much less to surpass the ambition, drive and independence of some of my aunts.

the women of my family tend to be goal oriented. they travel the world just because they can and they conquer - because they can. But sometimes i wonder do they live. My grandmother had 7 girls only 2 are married with children. please note i am not saying they are unfulfilled. i am just comming torealize why i am the way i am.

I know its been awhile sincei have blogged- school has been a little hectic. So what has transpired in my life since last i blogged. Nothing much really, i have been at school and lwhen not at school i have been at work. Balancing both has taken up all of my time. Med school is not hard if you manage your time properly. That i learned after the first semeter.

First Semester was interesting. i never got the first day gitters cause i found alot of the people i did a first degree with were back to do med too so i knew alot of people in the class. Even though i dont feel like it, watching the children that came directly from high school i have seen how i have matured and grown up. you could clearly tell in my class those that came directly from high school and those that did a first degree. A few years does make a big difference.

As one would expect where there is a large gathering of young minds there the " mentally gifted", for want of a better term, will be also. I find that i get along with everyone. I am not quite sure if that is a good thing or bad thing . On one hand it could mean that i am a friendly person or on thw other hand it could mean that i am a pushover- but i dont think so.

Anyway there is this one particular person in my class that cannot get along with anyone. If you tell her good morning she gets upset and wonders why the B.... i telling her good morning today. she is a special person. She tells me that she once was undergoing therapy but didnt go back because the therapist was too nosey. Makes you confident in the future doctors of our country doesnt it.

then there is a person with the completely opposite type of personality. she apologises for existing. She would spend 15minutes apologising for having to bother to borrow a pencil. Its amazing i tell you the diversity of people that you find.

I believe there are somethings that just cannot be taught in medical school. They might teach us and let us recite the things we need t say when with our patients. But deep sence of copassion and caring that one needs as a doctor i find must be intrinsic. On our entrance forms they asked for a mental evaluation i think they need to really look more in depth at because there are some people in my class that arent cut out to be doctors. but that makes me wonder -Am I?

Wednesday, August 16, 2006


Ever been in a conversation and the person says something, and you have no idea what there talking about but you pretend that you do? Its a bit unnerving the amount of times i have had to do that. I am that ignorant? But i have mastered the art of of pretending. its a bit like comprehension like you did in prep school. you infer based on the context. but i was wondering as good as that ability is, wouldnt it be more beneficial to you to admit you dont know and have person explain it to you. I know that there are certain circumstances where it is necessary not to advertise your ignorance, but there are times when you just need to say i dont know.

Its amazing how far a little confidence will take you.

Thursday, August 10, 2006

My house mate and i were talking the other day about the death of our landlady and the numerous calls we get from people asking if we are afraid of being in the house alone. She was comenting on how she felt a sence of lose and was saddened but was not necessarily afraid (she however does not want to be left alone in the house).
I could not relate to the sence of lose. Yes she and i used to talk and i would go over to her and do errands and the like. but i must say her death has not moved me. This had me thinking back to death of my grand mother and the very similar reaction i had to her death. i simply said ok she died. I lived with my grandmother practically my whole life she raised me. when i came home from school she was there with a cooked dinner. our relationship was and good. so it would seem that i would feel some sence of lose when she died. But i didnt. I was a bit surprised because i did not expect her to, but thats it.
So i have to ask the question: Am i emotionally frigid? Do lack some capabilty to feel? normally this would not bother me but ever since high school i have been teased for being cold and "dry". Now i really have to wonder. Arent supposed to be sad?

For those who dont know i am in a new job.The company i am now with has offered me a part time job while in school but requested my services in the month of August. I now know the meaning of culture shock. The public sector is, in comparison, a wonderful lixurious world of order and supply. I order, and the purchasing department supplies. Not so in the world of the private sector.
I get the feeling that wasting funds is contageous or i have caught the youthful exuberance of our wonderful minister Paulwell. At my old job when in need of equipment and other ammenities i simply place an order for the best, most technologically advanced and user friendly (i worked at the Scientific Research Council- we should be at the cutting edge). Here at my new job i find myself cutting the corners of a circular object.
They asked me to set up a microbiology lab. Being youthfully exuberant i in my infinite wisdom make a detailed list of the equipment needed to set up an efficient well functioning laboratory that would run as a well oiled engine. With confidence i presented this budget to the director. She smiled. i have discovered in my short experience with directors, that it is never a good thing if they smile when discussing money. BE WARY OF THE SMILE. She inturn gave me a budget, i smiled.
So if you see me looking a bit perplexed and frazzled, know it was because of the smile.
P.S. i need someone who works at customs to help me out with a thing.

Thursday, June 01, 2006

I work with a truly diverse and interesting group of people. Unlike the person in my previous blog this person is the total opposite she tells you every god- blessed thing that takes place. She has the most annoying habit however of conspiring, meaning nothing she does is staight forward. She will answer no qustion if she did not plan the scenario on which it would be asked.
Example one day it was raining and i didnt have an umbrella, so i wanted one to borrow to go for lunch, this was at 1pm, I in my ignornce went to ask her if i could borrow hers to go to the canteen and come back (she was eating lunch at the computer and checking her mail). i was then presented with a long monologue of how she had planned to leave at 12:30 to go to the doctor and how she got caught up in work and didnt get to go etc. etc. so i said fine and borrowed someone elses when i get back she asks if i didnt want hers to borrow.
she is forever going behind your back and complains to the lab manager about every little problem from one person not turning of the pipe properly to the machines being cleaned. if she has a problem with someone she goes first to the supervisor or if she is not here the Division manager. she never tries to solve a problem. she is never responsible for anything and she steps in and out as she pleases and makes up an excuses for everything. she gets on everybodies nerves.
I have gotten to the point that i speak to her only when absolutely necessary, because i know that i am a very feisty person. A fellow coworker got so fed up of her daily complaints to the manager that she did up a roster for and asked her to give her a letter grade as to how well she did her work at the end of each day.
i have come to the conclusion that she just wants the managers to see how good and effecient she is and wants to paint everyone in a bad light. why? I dont know, it wont get her a promotion or a raise of pay. All i can say is aaaaaaaaaaagh and try to avoid her.

I have the most interesting coworker.I dont want to call her paranoid or overly cautious in her behavior, but it is weird. She is of the opinion that the more people know about you the more power they have over you. This is true to an extent but when you start trying to protect yourself from every possible thing, is when you get caught up in the conspiracy theory.
Example she has a son. If she had her way people would not even know she had a son. She doesnt want people to know his name or his age, or if a coworker asks about him in school she gets very defensive and very upset and starts speculating on why someone would want that kind of informaton. Her rational is that a person only asks for information if they plan to use it. in a work place envioronment where other people have children too it is very likely that people talk about there children and inquire out of kind curiosity, she doesnt see it that way.
Now i am a very open person if you ask me anything you are very likely to get an answer. But then i start to wonder if i am too open. I dont want to get caught up in that kind of behavior, but it is necessary on some level to protect oneself. i dont give out private information as a rule but other details about my life, as far as i am concerned all people can do is talk about it and that generally doesnt bother me. People will find something to say about you antway so you might as well give them the truth so they dont have to make things up (and that is assuming people know you exist).